Monday, February 15, 2010

letting go

I finally told someone who has been taking advantage of me and treating me badly that I'd had enough. It wasn't an easy decision; I remember when this person was a delight to be with; I remember a lot of good times, and I miss them. I miss her; the fun, funny, lovable, incredible her; I miss her more than I can say.

But it's been many years since those days, and our relationship keeps getting worse. She shows no interest in changing her behavior, and I don't like the way she treats me. I never thought I would say this, but given the way she has chosen to live, I'm better off without her.

It's sad.

I won't close the door; if she ever decides to change, I would love to have her back in my life.

But not like this.

4 comments:

Karyn said...

Sorry to hear this Cindy. It's a tough decision to make - one I made back in 2007. The person in my situation however was my mother. I have not spoken to her since June 2007 and it was one of the toughest decisions I have had to make but in the end I think it was the right one. Sadly my sister no longer speaks to her now. She has 3 gorgeous grandkids who she doesn't see not to mention her two daughters but at the end of the day it was her behaviour that brought us to this situation.

Cynthia Newcomer Daniel said...

It's always family that makes it hard, isn't it? Good on you for making a hard decision and moving on. I hope I will have your courage.

Kokopelli said...

Sounds like a sad story. But sometimes we have to let go of people who are no good for us. To protect ourselves and get back our peace of mind. Knowing that doesn't make it easier most times. I wish you courage, luck and strength.

Cynthia Newcomer Daniel said...

Thank you; I'm going to need all the help I can get, I expect. It's hard for me to let go.